I was just thinking back to about a year ago when my husband and I were talking about not feeling like ourselves...and not really remembering what “feeling like ourselves” was supposed to feel like! We were both describing the feeling as a bit depressed, feeling a lack of direction or inspiration, feeling really unsure about the future...and he said to me, “We’re midlife-ing like a mother-fecker.” (Except he didn’t say fecker!🤣) We were (and are) IN IT! Midlife! Whoa mama!
It seems to me that men and women handle this chapter of their lives very differently. Men tend to purchase items like cars or motorcycles that remind them of younger, wilder days...days where they felt free and connected to a deeper sense of self.
Women tend to head to the book store. Browse the shelves for something to pop out at them...some kind of clue or inspiration that may lend them guidance about this next phase.
They want to gather. They want to expand their circle. They want to know that they are not alone in these feelings of uncertainty.
They crave support. They are willing to even put aside old stories of inadequacy or weakness in wanting this support.
They want to extend their need to nurture out into the world beyond the intimate walls of the family they’ve been lovingly and devotedly raising. (Human or fur babies! It all counts!) They want to get reacquainted with who they were before they became Mrs. or Mom. They know they are stronger and wiser for all they have been through but something feels out of place, there is a void that needs to be filled.
They want to remember and embrace what made them laugh.
They want to touch base and embrace their strengths.
They want to understand how their unspoken fears and doubts have held them back from pursuing the path they always intended to go down.
They want to know...all of it.
They want to dive in because they want this chapter to be different.
They want to LOVE THIS CHAPTER.
They want to move forward, to progress, to feel proud, powerful, & fulfilled.
They want to leave knowing they did their very best...
They want to LOVE THEIR LIFE.
Is this you? Comment if you’re Midlife-ing like a mother-fecker! 😆